04 Mar 2014
Djuan Keila Trent © Facebook.com
Big respect to former Miss America contestant Djuan Keila Trent who has taken the brave step of coming out.
Trent, who was crowned Miss Kentucky in 2010, recently revealed in a blog post: "I am queer".
She wrote that she'd been "going back and forth" with herself for months about whether she should come out, and opened up about her struggle with her long-held feelings of being "wrong".
“I could write about what it was like to come out to my mom for the third and final time at the age of 26 (the first time was when I was in the 4th grade and the second time was in college).
"I could write about the years I spent praying to a God whom I wanted so badly to serve with all of my heart, but couldn’t understand why this God made me “wrong”.
"I could write about all the times that people have asked me if I have a boyfriend and I’ve purposely chosen to just say 'no' with no further explanation.”
She said: “What has prompted my writing today has been my questioning people’s constant assumption that a) I am hetero and b) I concur with their views.”
She continued: "It should be seemingly easy for one to look at me and see that I am a woman, just as easy as it is also pretty obvious that I am black. But sometimes, I forget to put the "QUEER" stamp on my forehead on my way out the door in the mornings."
Trent's blog post was also a response to Kentucky’s court ruling against the state’s ban on same-sex marriage last month. U.S. District Judge John G. Heyburn ruled on February 12th that Kentucky’s ban on same-sex marriage violates the U.S. Constitution. The ruling has not gone into effect yet, so same-sex couples still are unable to legally marry in Kentucky.
Trent also emphasised in her blog post that she doesn’t believe coming out is something everyone should be forced to do.
"I believe that my sexuality is my own... and this is not kindergarten, so I don't have to share it with everyone if I don't want to. But it's nice when you share, right?"
She ended her blog post by thanking everyone who gave her the courage to come out: “You have given me the courage to speak up and speak out when I forget my “QUEER” stamp in the mornings.”